Apparently the staff at the school really liked D9, so they are trying to work out special ed for her. The high school is also going to provide special ed for S15. I believe I'm going to let the kids try it out and see how it goes as long as they do provide special ed for them. It was a failure last time with S15, but now that he's older I don't think trying it again is bad. Also, D9 is super social so might like it. So we shall see. Do you all think I'm the biggest wuss! I know I've made H's day, week, month, or year or something. But you know if it doesn't work out for one or both of them, he will have a legal battle on his hands... Karen
I think you should consult your lawyer so that some paperwork can be set up stating what happens if "it doesn't work out" and what it means to "not work out" SPECIFICALLY. DOn't do ANYTHING without your lawyer.
Listen to Didi -- took the words right out of my mouth.
It is very good that both of your kids are showing some potential enthusiasm for public school, or it sounds like. That bodes well for them adapting well to such an environment. All the same you need to ensure you have a fallback plan and that your rat-fink H doesn't shirk his obligations should it come to that.
I know when I discussed with my L re: D9 she said we could try it out for 3 months and then if not working, address at the final hearing in November. I will send her an email to clarify/confirm that though. I suspect once they are in ps that H will fight me tooth and nail over that, but if the kids are clearly unhappy in ps then hopefully they will take that into consideration. Karen
Hi Karen, I hope that he wont want to leave them in a situation where they clearly arent doing well. Have the two of you talked about exactly what not doing well will mean though?
Are there any kids that they know from outside school there, like D9's girl scouts, or kids from camp?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
What I find strange in all this is that her scumbag H thinks this will solve all of his problems, as if our Karen hasn't been trying to get a job this whole time. The kids are out of her way, so now the job should magically appear??? What an @ss!!
I am hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
What I find strange in all this is that her scumbag H thinks this will solve all of his problems, as if our Karen hasn't been trying to get a job this whole time. The kids are out of her way, so now the job should magically appear??? What an @ss!!
kat
I was kind of thinking that too! It's not going to help really & I'm probably going to be driving/picking up the kids a lot extra now. But it will at least help him I'm sure he feels re: alimony, b/c if I'm not homeschooling the kids I should be expected to get a job, and in a normal job market, I probably would. Karen
Alimony is set up based on the difference of incomes as well as the term of the marriage. So even if you got a job, I don't think it would make this huge dent in the differential. I mean with my ex, he makes a little over two times what I do and we were married for 19 years, he gives me ca $700 a month for 6 years and child support until they are 18 or out of high school. I do get over half of what he makes between the two. He did quit his second job so I wouldn't get as much.
Just so you have an idea.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Well, now I can apply to full-time jobs as well as part-time so hopefully something will work out eventually. H is being a butt about the kids again. He was supposed to have them Friday through Sunday this weekend but wants them tonight one day early I believe b/c he's afraid I won't take the kids to their orientations (both tomorrow). Doesn't know me at all if he thinks I would hurt them like that. I said fine, but then I'd like to get them Saturday night which would be the same 2 days he is supposed to have, b/c D9 wanted to go to rally day at my church sunday. She's been practicing for a books of the bible contest with the grownups and they're having a luncheon, etc. He emails me this am he's going to pick them up as usual tonight (we've done a thursday maybe once in the last year???) and have them all weekend. He's such an azz. I guess if he doesn't meet me Saturday night they're is nothing I can do about that. He won't return my emails--I emailed him this am and half hour ago. no response. I'm tempted not to drop them off tonight if he doesn't reply, but perhaps not cool. Ideas? Karen
Get him to say -- straight up yay or nay -- on Saturday Night -- make him say it, confirm it, so you both can know explicitly that he is being an azz or not.
If he refuses to give you a straight answer then kindly tell him he can wait until the normal scheduled time to pick them up -- and no earlier.
Sheesh! If this guy can't understand decent common courtesy and fair play ...
