If you have already sent the "thank you email" about the drive to the wedding and the help with the move, etc...., and you haven't gotten a reply yet be patient. I assume it was two days ago or less, give it time. If you try and respond right now you will come across as desperate and chasing.
Find comfort in the fact that you stepped out on the limb and offered an olive branch of friendship to H. I am sure he received it and was accepting of it. For now DB would be to have no expectations of a reply.
Out of curiousity, what did you say in the last email you sent?
This is a hard part. Muster the patience for H and give him time to do his thing. Patience isn't always easy. That's why we GAL. Try and keep your mind off a reply from H by staying busy.
Irish is right here. Keep thinking good thoughts of H so that when he does contact you come across with kindness and admiration. No matter what H does, you have to be the bigger person and you have to be able to greet and treat him well.
IMO, Your H still goes for the strong, independent and capable type. He still loves you, he always will.
IMO, The OW is a distraction for now. It is a big boost to his ego. It is all temporary. It is a MLC delusion. While the relationship is new it is fun. When he tires of the whining and insecurities and controlling demands and immature behaviors he will begin to think again that it's not worth it. That is why you change, gal and greet and treat him well til things change on that front. They will change. Her true colors will show and H will not like them so much. If we were not to change our Hs would go from that bad relationship right into another bad relationship. If our Hs like what they see in us they are more likely ro re-visit their marriages, especially those who really can't seem to go through with a D from us.
Love H from afar for now. Let him make his own choices. Be there when he wants you. It's not over yet!!!
Take care and hugs, I know how you are feeling.....
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
