I think that it is pretty clear that underneath all the major amounts of garbage that she does have love for you. And that love coupled with the gilt and more than likely shame of the crisis and pain that she has brought upon you is going to take a heavy toll on her if it isn't already beginning to happen.
SHe is to be pittied, Be detached but lovingly detached as you seem to be doing marvelously.
Hey PMAB I don't think Tomato is saying that at all. And I think Tomato has a point. It's time to pity her and that doesn't mean forgiving her or doing anything relieve her guilt...she deserve every ounce of it and she deserves all of her own pain and the rest of CIPAs. I think the point is that we have no idea what the betraying spouse goes through, not really. It's a long hard road to get to the point where they cheat and I have to believe it's an even longer road to come home and ask for forgiveness.
I haven't known CIPA long, but I know him enough that I believe she believes there will never be forgiveness....doesn't mean she won't try to get some.
But yeah, those cheaters really do suck. Sucks more we love them.
