By the way, what pressure are you putting on her??? To not have her kids around him? Give me a break. Unless there is more to your conversation (regarding your M with her etc.), I don't see you putting pressure. You are rationally discussing the well-being of your kids, right?
Separate the issues and she will NOT feel pressure. I get the feeling you are conveying that this is about the two of you and not the kids. Possible?
