Do NOT get a tattoo for your anniversary. That's like getting the Mark of the Beast on your body b/c of an idiot WAS. And yeah, I'm a bit of a snob about what tattoos represent, not to mention how MLC they are AND besides, having worked in a hospital with a burn unit, I'll NEVER understand why someone would harm their skin intentionally....might need it for a graft someday...
Anyhow, anniversary---"just a day"...."just a day that lead to the lives of two new people in my world" and now, the departure of a 3rd person who became a parasite...oh well. Plan something for you & nope, you don't have to take your kids to Italy but make sure YOU are happy & busy then. No reminders...
And the "modicum" of financial security you feel with your h, A/K is an illusion.
Find that "good/great lawyer" in YOUR UNCLE (??) and fix your sitch so you don't keep finding excuses to convince yourself you still need all this drama in your life. You don't.
Your h offers NO FINANCIAL SECURITY at all. How you convinced yourself he did, b/c he SOMETIMES pays you more than child support, in THIS state which allows for alimony AND goes by what he is capable of earning not what he is now earning/under-earning, AND the disparity in your ability to earn (IOW a good state for YOU), is beyond me.
But you have to snap out of this. Now. Get with the program....
J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
