Just popped in during my lunch break. Thank you very much for the feedback. Regarding my W getting jealous over attention I may get from OW: There have been a couple of occasions- most recently during a July 4th BBQ- where several women have commented to me in my W presence about how good I look. I couldn't really gauge at the time whether that bothered my W or not. I know that my SILs (and MIL) have all told my W how good looking I am and that OM looks and is an ugly skank. (BTW, even my W has admitted that OM is not particularly good looking, he just has a "cute personality".)
When I have mentioned to my W about being uncomfortable with younger women flirting with me (at the gym, post office, on a plane, etc)- because I want to be with her (W)- my W's response has been "well that's good, it will make things easier for you when you are single again and want to date". So I'm not sure if my W is really feeling jealous or not- I think she has really emotionally detached herself from me completely- although I do think that she still considers me handsome.
Going out on dates with OW is out of the question, however I have given some thought at this point to corresponding with some OW on one or more of the online dating websites if not for anything else then just out of curiosity. Perhaps if my W saw what other attractive women would be interested in me that might give her pause before throwing me out with the trash.
Acting like I don't care what my W is doing is going to become easier I think since after her trip and all the crap that happened there. Her ongoing treatment and disrespect for me and the entire family on both sides is really pissing me off. I'm starting to see my W as a real liability to me and my kids- someone who can't be relied upon or trusted anymore. She most certainly is at odds with many of my core beliefs with her behavior and her A.
I certainly have my shortcomings like everyone else and I'm 50% accountable for the problems in our MR. But the fact of the matter is I'm still a damn good catch and do not deserve to be treated this way. I'm getting increasingly concerned that my W is going to exceed my patience/tolerance without either one of us immediately recognizing it until it is too late.
I'll post more later. Need to get back to work.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
