Now that H has moved out, how can I set realistic goals for anything to progress in a positive way? I try to make sure each interaction is positive, not negative.
p.S. I don't think you set goals at the moment for your H and you. I think you set goals for yourself and work towards them. Your husband needs to deal with his own issues and you on yours. So, if you keep your goals about yourself (ie I'll lose 10 pounds, I'll learn to cook better, I'll spend an hour of undivided attention with my son, I'll find two new friends by the end of the month, I will walk away if H starts railing on me) then those are goals that you can achieve on the road to being a better eternaloptimist.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
