God I hope so...I mean I can't imagine anyoine of his age thinking this will be a life long commitment.
No Jeffy Poo he is not 12 lmao!! 22...but wth. I figure if someone that young thinks I am hot...I might as well. I have enough time to get serious later... today just ain't the day.
Thanks...tomorrow is the first day but I did have a great interview for a permanent position this afternoon so I am really hoping that comes through!
Now, shall we begin Lola's House of Smut?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Amen to that one Jeff!! I definitely have more fun here...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Lola's house of smut. Yes. That has to be the next thread title. Hurrah! Someone around here is getting laid!! That calls for drinks. I fancy a sorrel mojito tonight.
Yeah well I figure what the heck. 22 year olds have lots of stamina
Second day on the job. I HAVE MY OWN CUBICLE lmao!!! No seriously it is a nice law firm, too bad its a temp. But it does look like I may end up w/ a permanent gig at another firm, just waiting for the word...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I never thought I would get here, to the point where I wanted to divorce stbx. For such a long time, I held out hope that we were going to work through our issues, and that I would be able to forgive the affair. We still had constant contact, that is until my brother died, and I realized life was too short for me to continue living this way. I was tired of fighting what I felt was a one-sided, losing battle. And so I did what I always said I wouldn't do, and prepared the divorce paperwork.
Since I moved from Texas to Virginia, and then subsequently New York, I really cannot file the paperwork. So I contacted stbx and asked if he just wanted to wait until I gained permanent residency in another state and I would file, or if he would do it in Texas if I prepared the paperwork. He said he would.
That was four months ago.
Last month, I prepared the divorce petition, and emailed it to him. Nothing. This month, I offered to help pay the filing fees. Nothing...no response, no yes, no, F you, nada.
Now, most of you know my stbx is applying for citizenship (he is from Germany). Well, my dad is retired FBI, and works counterterrorism in the civilian sector now. One of his clients is USCIS (formerly INS). It has been suggested to me several times that my stbx should be deported, to which I have responded no, don't do that. My dad isn't vindictive, but has watched me bleed over the last two years, and frankly, it pisses him off.
Stbs has stated he fears that my father will pull strings to have him deported. Hmmmm...you think he would have thought about that before he stuck his d!ck somewhere it didn't belong. But noooo....
So I played the trump card, wanting a response on this stupid divorce. I asked him if he remembered who my dad was. Now, this may have been a sh!tty way to handle it, but yeah...I don't care. Very unDB. Screw it...I am tired of playing the games.
Of course, that comment worked, and he asked me if I was threatening him. I said no, but you wanted this so you need to finish it (you cheating jerk)...and he said he would when he had the money. I did point out that I offered to pay for it, and told him I wanted a time line because I wanted to get on with my life w/o his baggage. He said two months. I replied that he damned well better have it filed in two months, and I would email him my address.
Thing is, he won't file.
It's not because he loves me. He won't file just because he is the biggest jerk that ever walked the face of the earth, and he will want me to do it.
It is amazing to me how my feelings toward him have changed. Part of me still loves him, part of me hates him, and more and more part of me...well that part feels nothing for him anymore.
And I keep asking myself how I ended up with this dillweed?
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Ohh Lola, we were all foolishly blindsided by love. Or something similarly strong...
My stbxH said and I quote "I will grant her the divorce if she wants it..." AFTER I found out about his 3 yr affair. Some people are just...unbelievable.
You did well. Use your guns. You just shot in the air. No harm done but it will probably get him moving... K
I think that he wants me to file because then, if he does have a problem with immigration, he can say I left him and filed for divorce, he didn't leave me.
I really don't have much to do with his immigration status. I am not his sponsor. That is his ex wife. But now, the more I think about it, I wonder if he did marry her to gain his citizenship, and because he wanted to be in federal law enforcement, if he married me so that my father could potentially use his influence to get him a job.
These are questions I will probably never have answered. I honestly wish I could have the damned marriage annulled on fraudulent grounds, but unfortunately, I don't have proof.
Besides, that won't matter anyway. The pain of this experience will still be real, and I just want it to be done with. I feel like I cannot really begin to heal until the judge bangs the gavel.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
today just ain't the day.