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Hey D !


Just checkin in with ya .......

Everything good ?

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I'm doing absolutely fantastic except my girls have the chickenpox.

They are real troopers and handling it real well. I get them for the whole week while they have the chickenpox.

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How pleasant.....

I'm glad you are doin well my friend....

I love those times when I get to "baby" mine though....no matter how old they get, they are still my Babies .....

Enjoy it Bro !

You should think about doing a road trip at the end of September.....

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Well we're finally on the down side of the chickenpox. It was actually pretty mild.

Just got a call from MIL. Wife is staying there indefinitely as her and "friend" got into a fight last night and he kicked her out. I have no expectations because I know there is no way in hell she is even close to being done.

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Wife texted me last night to tell me that her and "friend" had a falling out.

I don't know how to handle this right now. I was dealing with a fairly known situation now it is a fairly unknown situation. Fear of the unknown I guess.

Obviously I am happy that her and "friend" are on the outs. Part of me is scared that she will hook up with someone else and re-open old wounds.

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Hey D.....

Stay put...

Don't overreact to this....

It is a speed bump that she has hit....

Question for ya...

Do you want her back just because her plan fell through and she just needs a place to crash for a while?

I can tell you assuredly that whatever happens, will need to happen..

Apply basic DBing here....

Validate..

Don't go down any cheeseless tunnels...

Also, don't work yourself up over what-ifs and assumptions either...

Don't let fear let you do something that you aren't ready to tolerate....

I.E.----Sweetie, you can move back in with me while you look for someone new....

I know you know this bro....just a reminder though....

Trust YOU D.....

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Thanks Mach! Reminders always help.

Back to basics.

I don't want her to come home until we're both ready.

It's just that my life was humming along quite nicely and then she throws me a f'n curveball. Gotta say, wasn't ready for it.

Oh well, I'll take it for the positive it is with what I know about "friend".

Add that to the other positive turnarounds in my life and I'm feeling d@mn good today.

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Pssssttt !!!!


She wasn't either......

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LOL

I forget that sometimes.

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Well I had to call wife Wednesday night about an issue with the kids. MIL answered the phone. She let wife know I was on the phone. Wife sounded excited to hear from me. We had a follow up phone call for the same issue yesterday. Again she was upbeat and sounded like her old self.

Last night I sent her a text sending hugs and kisses from the kids. She said she is already trying to find another place of her own.

I took a little bit of a chance. Wednesday and thursday were the first days I've actually talked to her in a couple of months. I sent her the following text:

"I want to say something to you but I don't want it to come across wrong. It was really nice hearing your voice"

Her response: "Well sometimes we have to talk for the kids but nothing has changed between us. Sorry"

I actually didn't think she would respond.

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