My Intro: Thanks for Reading!

[RedSoxFan]

Dude. He's moving in on your wife, already has as she has confessed.

Yes, he is clearly turning the heat up at this point.

You have EVERY RIGHT to set a boundary around your children. Simple answer: Just ask her every time she turns it around on you....W, how would you feel in my shoes?

I do but if I push too far she will play the divorce card. I thought I was trying to find balance between those two things.

She and I talked about an amicable disillusion from the day I moved out but we never went throguh with it. I didn't want it and she says it didn't matter to her as she felt we were no longer married anyway. Recently when I told her I wanted to save our family OM put pressure on her and she went to start the disillusion paperwork. I asked her if she would hold off on the disillusion and she said yes if I would stay at arms length, stop watching her every movement and stop hassling her about seeing OM. The very next weekend she had kids sleeping over his house thur & fri nights...I raised heck. I told her this was not about my hassling her for seeing him it was about saftey and wellbeing of our children. She cried a lot and agreed to stop sleepovers...but she had to do it one more night (3 nights in a row) because she couldn't back out (he had family emergency and the extended family was in town and there were big plans). I reluctantly agreed. Yuck! It makes me feel terrible to think that our little children have been thrown in like part of the extended family of a man that she has been dating for only weeks.

Anyway, you see my predicament.