IMHO, her losing face doesn't matter. Doing what's right by the kids is what matters.

Example: "OM, I moved too quickly when I allowed you to become involved with my children. I will be correcting that starting immediately."

If OM gets pissy or if she suffers b/c of it, well, tough. Big Girl Panties time.

The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

My sitch - Divorce Busted!
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