New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

My personal experience on the subject is right on with Carlos.

The only thing my STBXH and I fought about in the months after we first S was the D. I wouldn't go along with it, and he and the OW wanted to push forward. I finally quit engaging him on it and after a few times of telling him that "I won't contest it but I won't sign anything to speed it along because I don't believe in D" and him screaming back at me "Neither do it, but I have to do it to be happy" I had to admit it wasn't working and switch tactics.

Once I started telling him that I just wanted him to be happy, whatever he wanted, etc etc. he backed off. Another year went by before he finally filed for D (and a lot of stuff happened in between w/ the OW and alcoholism which caused me to throw my hands in the air).