I will tell you how to keep from drowning. Dive down, embrace it ... perplexed ... the sea will spit you up.
Update: drop the rope. just do it. it is the most liberating and mind freeing thing you can do on this adventure. I have realized, as in my previous analogy, that I have been in love with a memory. not in the act nor the person, but in a memory of a feeling that I once felt. however, years and years of life and emotional distance have eroded and stripped away the meaning of those feelings until one day I woke up to realized that they had been bulldozed away just like the pond.
one thing i have noticed about woman is they have a 'sense' and even though you think you are being the sneakiest mother f***er there is they know exactly what is going down. unlike so many men that fall for the I am going over to my mothers or its only girls night out, you can't pull that on a woman. they know damn well you are not going to see your momma and that men really dont make any special plans to hang out with the guys.
that said, the social interaction meetings. there have been a couple since I started posting about this. I wont go into details but I am certain they are hitting a nerve with the wife. at first she was curious, then a bit of anger (an understatement), and now I am the recipient of this attempt at friendship that I have not seen in quite some time. who would have guessed. Its too soon to tell though. Historically, She is the one who initiates the crises and I have a tendency of being sucked into her drama, over and over. I think for now it is better to let this play out and see how much she is willing to commit to correcting this dysfunctional marriage.
odder, a female friend of mine, whose daughter is friends with mine, whose son is a friend with mine, who I have known, her and her husband, for some time and never considered more than a 'buddy,' although she has expressed concerned of my wifes MLC and the roller coaster I have been on, is the one exhibiting jealousy over this new social acquaintance. I never would have figured on this. never taught my company was all that important and valued. goes without saying, oh the pain; I am hurting. LOL.
Honestly, I'm really starting to wonder what goes through the mind of lonely women.
Now for the good stuff. where have I been? a friend of mine races sail boats and one of his crewmen broke his leg with a couple races left in the season, which they are committed to. So, I have been receiving a crash coarse in sailing and moreso just waiting for locks as the yacht is being moved around the ***** lakes. Which is interesting in itself since I have a serious fear of death by water.
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Maybe we should set it up like the Dating Game. Bachelor #1, 2 and 3 -- ha!
oh, I definitely be around a bit more now. Time to get back on the divorce busting track :-)
OK SM, haven't read your entire story, just this section. If I understand this correctly, you've decided to start practicing "Girl-Fu". i.e. Playing the jealousy card.
From all the reading I've been doing here, look up Gucci Loafer's posts to see how it's done correctly.
Basically from my understanding it's done by becoming mysterious and copying her actions. e.g. dressing up nice to go out, acting secretive when a phone call comes in. This is done semi-discreetly enough to raise suspicions and get her attention back.
I'd like to warn you that you DO run the risk of losing her completely if she decides to take revenge. So tread carefully. GL has other good advice too.
Take care. G
what i get from gucci's posts, is alot of his advice is very similiar to the advice your wife is receiving from her enabling friends at the bar. Just the medium is different and no one is buying gucci loafer any drinks.
but, i dont think he would touch this thread with a ten foot pole as the information is too discombobulated.
still, I am wondering if its time to put nose to the grindstone or the pedal to the floor.
I have to agree w/you saying that women have a much keener "sense" of what's really going on.
For example, if you read in NewComer's, you'll find many men who state their wife is doing x,y, and z; and saying a, b, and c; and someone asks about the possibility of OM and these guys go ape$hit.
"Not MY wife, MY wife would NEVER do that", and on and on and blah, blah, blah.
And then Gucci chimes and and says: "I wouldn't bet on it". And then six months later, the man is posting that his wife is having an A. But only an EA, not a PA -- and then one month later, it IS a PA. Gee, what a shocker!!!
But you rarely see such posts from W's regarding their H's.
Women do sense things. And men being men, I think women just don't rule out infidelity - in fact, when things starting getting hinky, it's the first thing most will think of. I don't know that that's good - but it seems accurate.
