I just wanted to bump my sitch up as a plea for additional support. My husband gets back next week and I am starting to get nervous. For those who haven't read whole thread, we already live apart and have been separated 8 months. I wish he would give our marriage another chance but he seems to not be there...was once very in love with me (and more pursued me in the early days), and after about 2 years of tension/fighting over many little things (read above) he felt he wanted out.
So I've been trying to detach and GAL. Per Pearl's email above, are detaching/going dark/LRT all somewhat the same? Seems like they are?
I've noticed there's also a ton of support here for LBS that are husbands (giving insight into the mind of the WAW)...Sandi gives some terrific advice for men on how to approach their sitch. Sandi - any insight for me here? or STRONGER, anything you did to encourage husband to reconsider his stance? Or any men that were the walk-aways themselves?
I've started to grapple more than can't control where he is and what he does, just focus on making myself a better person (for myself, but wishing he would take note).
I've proposed retrouvaille but he seems hesitant. Just trying to figure out if my best bet is to just give it all up (I still love him so much)...if that attitude might help him reconsider, or if any other 'intervention/behaviors' might be better??
