Michelle, I think the other thing that blew my self esteem was pre-DBing and spending 6 months doing things that weren't working. Crying, pursuing, begging etc. It was awful! I can really see now how unattractive that was.
MsM, He really does seem on one doesn't he. I wonder where it'll take him. I can see why it would be so hard to up sticks and come back to me, it would take a lot of strength.
GAG, I will think about your suggestion re the cat. It would be the ultimate to give the new cat a present. H lived in London (as did I) before we met AND after the separation at his parents flat there. I will talk about stuff I have been doing when I next see him.
Cas, it was a little scary turning down the invite. I hope I did the right thing.
So, I am feeling slightly anxious as I made a bold move for me earlier and commented on H's status on FB. I am thinking perhaps that is too much? Too open? I don't know why it is stressing me so much!
I am interested in your comment about your H's life is now similar to your old one. My H has just bought a new house, 5 minutes drive from me but in the same suburb and his house is only 2 years younger than ours and could really be a smaller version! It was actually S and I who found the place! So desperate to be away .........
Just remember if it really bothers you, you can always remove it because you are the one that placed it there on FB. I have done that before. Hope all is well, just wanted to check.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I got sent a box of muffins by a guy admirer today. Exciting!! It had a really cute little note in it too. Here am I bloody wondering about my waste-of-space h. Geez! They look like this Candy Cakes The first photo!
Thank goodness for shoe shopping and finding your folder.
I think that’s the problem we all face, even IF they decide they’ve made a mistake would they be man enough to admit it a be prepared to put in the work necessary to repair the M? I also wonder how may WAS are out there right now wishing they’d put in more work before leaving.
Don’t worry about FB, it’s done now, move on.
Yes give some thought about what happens if a new man gets interested as suggested by GAG. What’s interesting here is that I recently went out with a male friend and my H was furious even though I’ve know this guy for years and nothing that was said/done couldn’t have been said/done with my H present. Interesting considering my H is apparently indifferent to me. How would your H feel if you were to do something like that?
A male friend of h's has asked me to go and visit him. This would be a stay overnight. It is the only one of H's friends I have kept in contact with. There is nothing romantic at all in it and I would really like to go. I wonder what H's reaction would be??
I guess this is a way of letting h know that there is interest in me, just like his amusing reaction on move day when a guy asked me for my number in front of him.
