WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

My suggestion would be to not take it. You don't want to seem "dependent" on her. If she wants to make things right, how about starting with "I'm sorry..."

Bingo!!! And taking responsibility for hurting you. Two wrongs dont make a right... You will know when she is sorry and wants to work on things.

Keep the focus on you and the boys. Use this time to do all the things you werent able to do before. Go skydiving!

PMA

I don't see her taking any responsibility for what she has done to hurt me and the boys. I don't know if she ever will nor do I know what I will do if that day comes.

You are right though, I need to focus on me and the boys.

I was actually upset yesterday when I skyped my boys last nite and my 7 year old said that they missed soccer because it was too hot. That is utter BS. I know he was excited to try the moves he learned over the weekend. What I do know, the last several weeks we had gone, she bitched about how hot it was.

I guess this is a testamont to her selfishness. Perhaps I'm reading her mind or maybe my boy really didn't want to go. But what I could see the last two nites, the look in his eye that something was wrong. One thing that I do like about skype is that when I talk to them, I know that she is in the room and can hear me. But I am trying to live my life and treat my kids with honesty and dignity that there is nothing that I say that I would not want her to hear.

I will see my boys tomorrow. That is what is going to get me through today....