Last night she continued to be chatty. She even came outside to sit on the patio with me. It was kind of surreal. We've been through these "ups & downs" before. It's not that the ring is back on, we're not holding hands or anything, but it was strange to have her come with with me, talk about her day and how good the flowers in our back yard will look next year. She's excited to see how they fill in next year?
It takes everything I have to stop saying "what??? I thought you're moving out???" God this feels like it's such a game to her!
It does seem that she is trying. The problem is that she is still trying by herself, not inviting me to try with her, and still keeping me in the dark. (If we're trying, let's work together, share thoughts and feelings and get some new tools to make it work) She's trying with the same old tools...so we all know...we can't expect new results.
I'll do my best to respond to the old tools differently. Maybe it will be enough to get us started in the right direction at least.
BTW...after hanging out with me in the back patio she went to her girlfriend's house until some time between 1:30-2:00 am.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
