But H is throwing the control button back to me-"You want this separation too!" and "You book the mediation"(that`s for sorting out separation issues-NOT marriage counselling).
I`ve made it plain S is not my first option. And left it to him to book mediation. I refuse to control it in any way. Let it roll.
How are you validating his feelings in this ?
How clear did you make it that this was HIS responsibility ?
This is how HE feels right now...
And if you are booking the Mediator, then he is right....
If you don't want to book this, then don't....
I.E.---I've been thinking about this, and I understand why you feel I want this Seperation....I do not, if you do ? That is your decision, and I have to respect that. I feel differently, and since I do, I have decided it best that you need to make the appointments for this...That way there is NO misunderstanding in the future...
FG, D, Whoever, This is what the "true" changes Jimbo talked about are. Validating should become a part of YOU.....
And something you do because it is part of you, not a ploy to use and then forget about it...
This is something you give because you can, you feel, and you love....
