Absolutely you are hurt and scared. We all are. But harness that fear and use it to motivate the white knight in your. Think Richard Gere in "An Officer and a Gentleman" or Daniel Day Lewis, "Last of the Mohicans". I guess Clint Eastwood in "The Bridges of Madison County" might not be the best but he's pretty hot too.
Anyways.
Set up family night. She'll do it when you put it to her as something the whole family will benefit from. And if you think you need to sell it with "I promise no relationship talks" then sell it. And when you are on family night, there really should be no relationship talks. Maybe ask her to coffee again with the desire to talk about finances to see where you two can help each other the best way possible. You want to do this to make sure she and kids are taken care of, you don't want her to stress about money. But you have to stay in her head. I've learned my head has a direct line to my heart. And no more counselor talk for now either. I would say "I will still take care of you. I know you may not want me to but if you don't let me, you are forcing me to break a promise I made a long time ago when we got married. So please, let me do this."
Super super sexy. Wish someone would say that to me!
