First rule: Do what works. You are doing what works, so I'd continue it. Small positive doses of you.
Unfortunately, I think the long distance thing is lonely and frustrating for her, and you are an outlet. When it implodes, I think you'll be the first person she runs to. I know that being second choice is difficult to swallow, but if/when she does come running, you can set the ground rules. BUT, you have to personally be in a place where you can take her or leave her. You have to be able to say "No", if she wants to just come back no questions asked and no work on her part. Are you at that point? If not, work towards it.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
