It seems in his case to be a question of wanting to contol/wanting to be controlled. As he hates change and hates making decisions.
That is not just for MLC'ers though.....EVERYONE dislikes changes, unless those changes are their own ideas...
I.E.--YOU need to change your hair color...
or
----I think I'm gonna change my hair color...
Changes should always be for yourself...
Originally Posted By: Fallgirl
I`m intrigued by Mach`s quote"We think we're going to stop the emotional divorce by stopping the legal divorce. The more you try to stop the legal side of divorce, the more rebellious he or she feels."
Should we just let them roll on out of the M and go all the way down the legal route to see if that`s what they really want?
My opinion ? I think that yes, to a certain degree we should. This journey isn't about us, and to really let go. We have to let them roll on with whatever will make the most difference for them.
Although it feels wrong for us, and it is a dagger through the heart, Letting them go is actually the most loving thing we can do for another person. It is a gift that WE can give them. Doesn't make us martyrs...Just people of faith, and love...
That doesn't mean to lay down and make this easy for them, if this is truly what they want, then they need to fight for it.
Just because the legal side is handled, doesn't change the emotional side of this either. As far as I know, no person has a switch that they can flip to erase everything.
Just because history has been re-written, doesn't mean it is correct....and the truth will prevail...in time
