Keep at her. Do not go dark. Stay in her life however you can. Ask her on a date. Start to challenge this other douche bag for your wife. Make it clear you understand your mistakes and are ready to pay for them and fight for your lady.
I am staying in her life and I have definitely made it clear that I understand my mistakes. I've asked her to have coffee and talk, I've asked to consider having an initial no strings attached conversation with a counselor. She's said no to everything.
She has agreed not having the kids sleep over at his house any more and to hold off on the disillusion. She could be doing this because she still sees a tiny bit of hope or she could be doing it for selfish, calculated reasons. I don't even like to think about it like that but I'm so sad and it causes me to doubt everything.
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
