You are right! Silence is power for him. He does this every time he gets angry and then if I apologise he refuses to accept the apology or does so begrudgingly. The other day the comment was that he was going to get a divorce so he didn't have to deal with me again. I found it quite humorous when I thought about it later given that it was H who invited me to dinner after the formal, it was H who came into the house after the football. If I was so difficult why would you bother? So thanks for that thought.
Tonight I sent him a brief text just to say thanks for having the kids while I was away. He replied ok.
I loved your suggestions from Jody and appreciate you sharing them with me. I feel I have a couple of ways to go here;
It could be as you suggest: 'Hi H, I know we had some cross words the other day and I am sorry for that. I know that I have enjoyed the family time we have spent together lately as have the kids. If you want to drop over sometime please do, however I'll leave it with you.'
However, I think I need to address the bad behaviour to show that it cannot be an ongoing part of our relationship.
'Hi H, I know we had some cross words the other day and I am sorry for my part in that. I understand that you were angry, however, I would appreciate you calmly talking to me about any issues you may have rather than yelling at me. I am sure you will understand that I cannot accept this behaviour as part of our friendship.
I have really enjoyed the time we have had together recently as have the kids. If you want to drop over sometime please do, however I'll leave it with you.'
