When we were fighting and she said she wants to keep me as a friend and she does not want to loose me, I told her she does not treat me like a friend. I told her friends talk and hang out. I also said it's hard for either one of us not to talk about the past... it's all we have to talk about other than the kids and until we start to make new things to talk about we are pretty much doomed to talk about the past.
I gave her a choice, I said either we can be friends and you treat me like one IE hang out and do just friend stuff or we go our own ways.
she wants to try and be friends for a week and see where we stand. if we go for a week with no fights. then possiably we will start to hang out do things as normal friends would do.
The phone coaching was ok, she had phone issue and I felt rushed but I guess I did take some of it away from the call it's nice to have a pro. give you the confidence that there is still alot of feelings between my W and me. of course she wont say yeah it will work but she was sure my W still loves me and with some work on myself we can get beyond the issues at hand and stand a very good chance of R
