Another One Bites the Dust?

[MommaDucki]

So for now, what's going on?

I'm still DB from afar...to the best I can, I've gone dark...at least on my end. H asks questions, and I'm very short and frank with him. I've gotten him to at least start taking the initiative to call or text me if he wants to ask about D...instead of him waiting for me to do it...Told him that if he wants a R with D, he has to start now.

I'm still doing 180s, and still working out.

As for H? Well, he left my parents' house 3 days after getting here. Realized he and I both still had crap to work on about ourselves, and we jumped too fast. So, he lived with OW in her grandma's house...her g'ma passed away in early July...OW's uncle is executor of the estate and granted OW and H permission to stay there. OW has a lot of health probs and H's been driving her all over dropping off paperwork for uncle, taking her back and forth to hospitals when she gets sick. He's all but convinced OW to buy him all the things he wants. So far, I'd guesstimate the amount she's spent on him is at least $3500.

He's made it perfectly clear to me why he wants a D and says it has nothing to do with her. He did just accept a new job back in city where D was born, so he's moving there, but since he let our car get repoed in may, he has no means for transportation unless OW goes with him with her car...so of course she's moving with.

About a month back, he and OW's mom got into a fight, and cops got called, OW got mad at her mom for mistreating H and calling him a liar (she wasn't actually lying...said things like H was actually going into places and filling out job apps, and spending all day on his new laptop playing video games, which is what he's doing.) Anyhow, H and OW moved out and into a hotel where they've been ever since.

Now, OW's LBS found me onlineand started contacting me with some "vital info" as he put it....said in that time frame in may when H was up here, his W told him that her and my H realized how true they are for each other and each wants to D their spouse so they can go to Vegas next spring and get married...and after that, they feel i'm not fit to be my D's mom, so they're going to take me to court for full custody of D.

During all of this, I've not asked a single question. I made it clear to H that he keeps lying to me to spare my feelings. I told him that all I want is the truth. The truth hurts a little, but being lied to and weeks or months later, finding out the truth? then I'm doubly hurt.

He doesn't ask about my life anymore either. I don't ramble to him about it though. The only time I ramble is when I'm talking about D.

I'm not even sure if I'm going dark the right way or not...lol, any tips there would help!

Ok, I am all sts of full of info, but it's also extremely late and I work early, So any insight or advice up to this point would be greatly appreciated.

I will gladly answer any other questions anyone has.

Fr now, goodnight!