A friend once told me something along the lines of: If you make choices deliberately and out of your own free will, and these choices make a huge impact on others' lives, you really have no right to have an opinion whether they should tell others about it.
And yeah, she told her H's family, friends, employers before kicking his sorry behind out within a week of finding out about his A.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.