Hi peace- I am sorry that things have gone the direction that they have with your XH...however, his new marriage may be a great dose of reality and just what your XH needs to bring him back to earth in time.
The advice you have received here is great as always...I wish I had something to add but my brain is too exhausted to come up with anything at all.
Sorry I haven't been around...if you read my thread, you'll know why.