If she refuses to give up the OM, then call the OM and tell him to pick her up. I think you need to do something drastic to shake things up. She's endangering the livlihood of your kids with her thinking like that.
I would lay it on thick and tell him everything that your W wants to do with him. Cut off all money ties from her so that she doesn't use it to further the affair.
She can't keep treating you like a doormat.
Stuck,
My male instinct tracks with yours in terms of shaking things up with my W. At the same time, I'm looking for some ideas from Sandi as well for a more balanced approach.
As far as the OM is concerned, he is a punk little boy playing little boy games with my W. He is totally beneath me; I have no use for him nor any interest in contacting him.
As far as the money goes, I'm seeking legal advice from attorney friends on how to handle that.
Thanks for the continued feedback and interest in my sitch.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
