Young couple in need of help

[sumguy27]

Just got back from Bdubs. I haven't had chicken wings for months.

Stronger I'm Hmong. If you guys don't know what type of Asian that is google it. Yes what you guys are saying is right. And I'm glad I have found this site.

There is a culture clash when it comes to the Hmong way of things and the American way of things. I was born and raised in Minneapolis so I was born into the American world.

Meaning what the elders have been saying to me is why didn't I go to her parents and tattel tail on her. The Hmong way is if your unhappy with your spouse your suppose to talk with her parents and clan to help her understand what she is doing. Growing up when your younger here is its bad to tattel tail. So when her parents brought that up she made a big deal about why I didn't do it. I lauged it off too her because she is even more Americanize then I am. She can't even read or write in Hmong of speak it clearly.

The other thing is I'm still suppose to go to her parents to force her to come back. I know that's a big no no because we don't live in our home country anymore. This is America and it doesn't work that way anymore.

I know its a bigger issue then the phone so I chuckled when she asked for it back. And I know if this is what she really wants then both my clan and her clan would have a meeting asap to settle things about everything before we go to court to do it the American way.

Yes rob u and stronger r right. I shouldn't have done what I did. I guess I was hurt to see him cry for his mother. If it was candy, toys etc its easier to say no because he doesn't get his way with those things. But I guess I might have to look at her like those things.

I was also thinking I was going to find OM(s) there also. Just so I can catch her in the act. To prove a point.

She has not contacted me all day and I haven't with her, it was hard not too. I will try
and ask her about family time.

The road is tough as I miss them so much. I will have to use what I learned so far and just go dark for now and detach myself.