I have to say being separated from my wife really gave me the space to be able to formulate goals and GAL away from the daily pain and drama.

I think Stuck is on to something regarding cutting her off. For me, it wasn't money it was my friendship and that was predicated on a commitment. No marriage, no friendship. She got to choose to leave and she saw the results of that decision and it caused her to rethink her choice. Unfortunately, like you John you throw an OM in the mix.....

I'm always amazed at the rationalization WAS's use to justify thier actions.

Formerly SGfan
M:38
W:33
M:8 yrs
T:10 yrs
Bomb: Dec '08
Separated: 4/18/09
Divorce: 8/28/09
XW Affair began: April 08