Well, I've borrowed my to-be-in-laws' Subaru for the duration of my car's resurrection. So that's good.
I got home this evening to find the kitchen floor covered with towels, and S21 saying the dishwasher was leaking. I messed around with it for a while, didn't fix anything specifically, but I think I took care of it. I think there was a float stuck. It's covered up, and I can't see it, but I banged on things a bit, and ran a couple cycles successfully. I am a bit worried that I might need to figure out how to take it apart and give it a good cleaning, I expect it's got some big deposits on it that might be binding things up.
(((((sg))))) Thanks for stopping by! I guess the hugs are a bit of a trademark! I guess I'm kind of proud of them, if you backed me into a corner!
((((((MB)))))) ((((((Stacy))))))
If there is one thing I think I may have learned through this experience it's that the "need" thing is way overrated! Though I'd like to think that if one died tomorrow there would be 15 or 20 minutes of sadness! But the idea of need leads to neediness... and that can't be a good path to go down.
I do have to admit, if I do say so myself, that your list does sound like me. As long as house cleaning isn't a big requirement!
What's on my list? Hmmm, well intelligence is up there. Not necessarily schooling, but a good head on her shoulders. Compassionate, kind. A sense of humor, maybe a bit twisted. Likes to travel. Healthy, but not obsessive. Doesn't always have to have a plan. Can have fun doing nothing, or completely on the run.
And of course there's the sex thing. At a minimum once a year.
The desert.... you know, it really grew on me. I think it really helps that I'm surrounded by mountains.... real ones! And the open spaces. The saguaros, and the coyotes, hawks, quail, jackrabbits, all of that!
San Diego is about 6 hours away, and there's a lot of water, and just about the best weather anywhere over there. There's also a resort area at Rocky Point, Mexico, that a lot of people rave about, about 200 miles away. I think I have to go down there sometime and check it out.
(((((BobbiJo))))) Ice cream..... hmmmm..... maybe butter pecan? Sweet and nutty? Not too serious, but a little refined?
Just checking up on you! Interesting read about the timing belt-think my one`s up for replacement soon. Gotta watch that one as it would be a right nuisance to be stranded some am taking the kids to school or wherever. Can imagine it could have been a lot worse for you though stuck in the desert!
You sound good-as usual!I still can`t figure for the life of me what crazy stuff was going on in your W`s head when she let you go!
If there is one thing I think I may have learned through this experience it's that the "need" thing is way overrated! Though I'd like to think that if one died tomorrow there would be 15 or 20 minutes of sadness!
Just because you don't need someone, doesn't mean you don't love them. Let me think about this, I don't think I'm expressing myself very clearly on this!!
More classroom unpacking today -- at least all the furniture items are in place. And it's cooler and MUCH less humid today -- all good.
As far as your W, if you do proceed with D, do you think she'd freak out, try to get you back, etc?
What's on my list? Hmmm, well intelligence is up there. Not necessarily schooling, but a good head on her shoulders. Compassionate, kind. A sense of humor, maybe a bit twisted. Likes to travel. Healthy, but not obsessive. Doesn't always have to have a plan. Can have fun doing nothing, or completely on the run.
And of course there's the sex thing. At a minimum once a year.
We need to work on this...lol!!! once a year??? You deserve at LEAST once an hour...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
((((((Stacy)))))) You know, I think I understand what you meant. I'm thinking about a case where an SO was away for a while, maybe for work, to see family, or even to go somewhere, or do something they were interested in, and I could not go for whatever reason. I don't want to feel that I "need" them so much that I couldn't function for a week or two, or even more. Wouldn't HAVE to talk on the phone for hours and hours, and wouldn't spend the whole time pining away and being miserable.
I don't see any evidence at all that W will freak out in the least when I set the D in motion. I don't think she wants to be married. I don't think she wants to be a wife, I'm not sure she ever did. And I wasn't a good enough housekeeper. Of course the is also the question of whether I would want her back. She'd have to do a lot more than say she wanted to come back. I don't think it is possible. But, again, I've learned to never say never... even after the D is done.
The kids are handling things great. Things are not perfect, they are growing boys, after all! But I think there is less tension in them since we've separated. I guess I could have on a pair of rose colored glasses, but I really don't think so.
Had an interesting dream last night.... There were some little kids playing basketball, they were younger than any of mine, I think. (And interestingly, other than shooting around a bit none of mine have ever played.) There were five, or maybe six, in uniform, and another not. He was a little guy, and I think maybe challenged in some way, but it was clear that he wanted to be playing. And the others weren't trying to exclude him. But somehow he'd gotten left off of the paperwork for the tournament they were playing in, or something. Then I was talking to a woman, I don't have any idea who she was, and she was so passionate about the whole situation. (It got confusing because I think it turned in to him, or another kid, being left off a football team, but whatever!) She knew he couldn't be a big contributer on the team, but he could play a little, give someone else a rest, and he would be thrilled. So, I gave her a hug, and I got a hug back.... and then I woke up! I think she might have been a combo of Stacy and MB, of course, since one is a redhead, and one is blond, and this woman was brunette, it makes perfect sense! But Stacy has the special needs thing going, and MB is the ultimate soccer mom, so.....
I don't know what the point was, or if there was a point.... it was a dream, after all!
Well the neediness thing is a button for me. My X justified starting his A because my younger sister, who was 39 at the time had a series of strokes and almost died. She's in Florida, not married, so all she has is my parents, who were 72 and me. So I spent the summer flying back and forth to be w/her, then help with her recovery. But I was flying back and forth, never gone for more than five days. Took various kids back and forth w/me.
And all he could talk about was how I was "abandoning" him, he had a lateral change in his job, and how was he supposed to feel "supported", blah, blah, blah.
So in the end, I'm sitting in the ICU w/ my sister, and he starts up w/someone else. Blech!!
Sorry to spew all this, but that's why I have the whole fear of someone too needy.
Well back to work, 183 boxes to unpack. And not getting one penny - oh well, we teachers do all this for the children. And it is my decision to go in before we're on the "clock" but I'd never be able to get it done in time, and it wouldn't be as nice for the children.
That's a funny dream. But if it was me, I would've been taking names and kick a$$e$!!!
Back to work - miles to go before I sleep.
Stacy ((((Jeff))))
Sorry so long! I had a long one to MB this morning too!
Of course, it would help if I actually had a house...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
