I read that website and I understand most of it. But What i am not so sure of is weather or not my H can actually admit to his wrong doings and repent it. He has allways said that he won't do this or that again but it seems like most of the time that he ends up doing 'something similiar but it's not the same thing'. Like he slightly changes it so it is not the 'same thing' that he did before.

I am just being quiet around him right now. Have lots of things on my mind and don't really want to talk about it yet.

Me-31
Him-28
D1-9
D2-6
Married 5-06
Seperated 12-07
He filed 1-08
Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08
Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09
Filed for D 4-28-09
Trying to make a go of it 6-09