My H has told her he's done. He cannot be her only friend and support person. He told her it's taking a toll on his health, it's not good for our relationship, and it puts him in a terrible spot between her and the H. Hallelujah!
This is excellent, M. I hope he lives up to this. He seems to have a strong realization of what is "The Right Thing To Do," but as you know, it's the "doing" that is the difficult thing.