JR,

Sorry to read you are feeling anxious...I understand how you would. I agree with Carlos...anxiety gets stirred in me whenever I am reminded that there are things...people, too...about which I care but over which I have no control. Carlos is right that the anxiety is a signal. Unfortunately, that signal often gets interpreted as a need for more control. I react this way instinctively. But, if we learn to let go of the things we cannot control, there is a measure of peace that comes with that, even if the outcome is not what we desire. Not saying that will happen for you - a negative outcome, just that you have to take care of yourself and work on what you can control.

Funny thing though, trying to control that which is beyond our control is the surest way I know to negatively affect the outcome and to harm ourselves.

So, I know it is easy for me to say when you are the one who has to do it...but Carlos is also right that you should keep busy. Occupy your mind as best you can; you'll know the outcome soon enough.

V.

p.s. learning to let go of the things I cannot control is a continuing effort for me, JR. I am no master at it - just working away at it and hoping that sharing some of what I have learned on my path might help you a bit.

One more thing...just reread your post and wanted to add this: it's an old adage and I have been trying it in my life and it seems to help - when you do not know what to do, do nothing...just wait and the solution will likely present itself. There is a saying in French that I like a lot, "la nuit porte conseil." Literally, this says the night brings advice...so sleep on it and before you know it, you'll know what to do. V.

Last edited by VeronicaV; 08/19/09 01:22 AM.

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