I dont believe he knows but I am not him. Based on his past actions I think he may believe that since I have not brought up the lack of intimacy in our relationship that I am ok with how things are right now. Telling him my feelings would do no good. He will make excuses and blame me. In the past he has told me that I dont visually excite him because I am a little chubby. So were two of his three OW......but maybe it is true that if I cant look like the OW (the last one who was very thin and was his supposed soul mate ) then he cant be responsible for his lack of desire. What am I supposed to do with that? It hurts to hear it and it hurts to believe that maybe he has been telling the truth the entire time and he just doesnt love me....He now says he does, when asked....which I havent done in a very long time but I no longer believe it. I dont believe in much anymore
OK. I really, really understand that. My situation was very similar, except without an OP. Which almost makes it worse, in a way, but that's irrelevant right now.
So, the big question is, do you want to try, or not? No judgement coming from me. I think there are things you can do if you want to try. I think doing nothing is a bad idea. And trying might push him out the door. So, that leaves it to you.
Also, I agree, your situation, and your son's are separate. Don't go down a martyr path on that one. I would suggest he Google Retrouvaille.
