I have retained counsel, insight and all the above in the Newbie Section for a year and was told a while ago to check in MLC and WAS forums so I'm gonna post in these areas as well. And actually, I am to the point of pushing for closure for what ever that may mean for my life here on out. I have been separated from my W for a year this month on the 24th. My W left a year ago b/c she said she could not live this way any longer and that she gave me her 20's and was not sure if she could give me her 30's. She went on to say "I just need to find myself" I found this sight and DR and at my best adhered to the principles. I gave her all the space she needed and then some. Being in limbo with anything is never attractive, especially when it's dealing with love. I attempted to put myself in position today to speak with my W about this but she has been to evasive. I have not seen her in maybe 3-4 months and have not physically touched her in a year. There has been nothing between us at all other than a 2-3 visits and random phone calls. There has not been any R talk since Oct 08 where I gave her forms that my attorney gave me to start the dissolution of our marriage and that was just a ploy to ring her bell b/c I actually was going for legal separation not the D. I was not really ready for that even though I felt there was an OM. She cried and seemed bothered, but she has never filled the papers out and got them back to me nor has she completely moved all of her things. I have heard she is with the OM, apparantly someone with money. I dont search for info on her, the world just thrives on misery so I guess people feel that have to inform you even when you dont want to know.
I hope I do this right. I am going to try to post a link to my sitch in the Newbies Section if I dont get it right that is where I've been with my story for a year under "Unfamiliar Territory any Navigational Guides".
