Scared but ready #7

[Coach]

Well, he kind of doesn't know how to receive a compliment...but then again, he wants constant praise, like a little kid, for everything he does. Like if he makes a steak...he wants to be told how good it is...like 10 times. I'm not kidding. I always compliment him on his food...he's a good cook. But let's say I volunteer a couple of times how good it is, he will KEEP asking. "Do you like it? It's great, isn't it. It's awesome, I'm awesome." He's like that about a LOT of things. But all superficial things come to think of it. We go into the area of "feelings" and he acts differently.

Ya think that is how he got loved from his parents by "doing things." Is he comfortable talking about his ideas, dreams, and goals?

What's different about me? Well, I've been working through a Bible study by Beth Moore that has been so instrumental in God bringing me healing. So, it's spiritual, I'm not trying, it's just coming to a very rock solid place of self-worth, of being defined by the Lord.

That's goodness for you.

This sounds silly...but when H would start getting critical and mean...which naturally leads someone to droop..I'd think, nope, you're wearing a crown. And I started lifting my chin up. My entire posture has changed. Even when he starts I calmly look him straight in the eye and he backs down. Can you believe?

Yes, I believe do you?

You don't sound as angry as you were which is good for you and your family.

But Coach...it's still a little scary. Because I don't know what's building up inside. It remains to be seen if will be able to resist trying to dominate me. His old weapons don't work anymore though. We'll see if he likes it this way, or if he gets more resourceful.

It's probably scary for him too. He sees you changing and acting stronger, wiser and getting a spiritual life. He's changing as well. Keep praising his changes that are healthy and productive. Sounds like WOA are one of his LLs. Stay consistent and strong. You are handling it.

Cheers
Coach