be her best friend? i have been using that approach with my waw and it seemed to set a foundation for it. the feedback i got from her was that she loves being carefree about the sitch. she gets anxious when we bring stuff up and i always fall for that!!!! Here is what is working for me: 1 confidence 2 needing her without being too needy 3 laughter 4 putting her at ease and letting her put me at ease. this is crucial. i think women want to know that they can also fix things. that they are not weak but equal. i truly believe that most of the issues at hand here are about teamwork. if a wife feels that her place in the M is just as important as the H then that tends to lead to her thinking that she is no longer the bad guy. but it is imperative that you know its not just your fault. she needs to know that she had a huge part in it too.
make sense?
it is easy to tell other about it but hard when you have to do it yourself.
