I haven't lost sight of my goal, but I am less emotional about her every move. That's for sure.
I am still doing some things to be a good guy (for myself and for her). I made sure the house was spotless when she got home, had gone grocery shopping, and cooked dinner when they got home. I didn't make a big deal out of it though.
When she has goten chatty, it has made me uncomfortable. I'll chat for a bit then go for a walk or find something else to do. I'm afraid to talk to her for long. It was only a week ago that she told me she is filing (again). I don't really want to talk to her like I used to. It's either cold and superficial or spiteful and hurtful. Nothing really in between.
I also spend the whole time telling myself "remember to ask questions, validate, don't criticize or be judgemental, don't take over the conversation..." It's very tiring.
Yes to answer your question. I am detaching, but trying to do some loving things too. Any suggestions?
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
