Reconciliation after divorce

[Sanderika]

Be patient, H will take the bait eventually...

They don't come around in thinking for a very long time and it takes lots of repeat performance on your part to "crack the nut"!!!

Eventually it "cracks" and then it is still only with caution that they let their guard down converse with you and open up.

Maintain a certain behavior and practice patience is really all you can do at this point in time. The rest is up to H. If you create a Bonny H likes, how can he D you??? That was kind of my goal. I have succeeded here, at least for now. It's still all about time and patience.

Exactly Bonny, attempt to fix things up yourself. When H sees your accomplishments he will be proud of you even though he won't say it. Don't feel the urge to run and tell him either. He will notice or hear about it even without you telling him. Should you get something taken care of, to act "as if" it's really no big deal looks more attractive. However, if H inquires how you did it or offers a compliment for a job well done, make sure you give him a brief answer and thank him for his interest and obviously thank him for any compliments. Thank you's are always validating to his thoughts and feelings and so it serves to boost his opinion of you.

Remember, you want to look strong, independent and capable and strong, independent and capable are beautiful qualities.

You can do this....what would you like to tackle first?

Will chat later,

Sanderika