No problem X. i think then that is all you should tell you wife when you do talk again. That you sincerely wish she had found out in a better way. I think the A will build you. shoot sometimes we get so caught up in taking all teh hurt from our WAS that we lose our selves, we lose our self esteem. My brief dating with anotehr guy did wonders for me - made me ralize that there are good guys out there that I can be with and that I can and deserve to be treated better. I know she's hurt but at the same time maybe its a wake up call she needed. I firmly believe "All things will work together for good." So stop beating yourself up over this and let it play itself out. You've been through enough pain with her A, you don't need to beat yourself up anymore over something you didn't even start. Be strong.
