Retrovaille will focus on communication in a way that is new to you both. Trust them. THe couples hosting it have hard HARD stories to share, and yet are together now, and happy. You will NOT have to share openly with others. It's not a group dynamic. It does say "love is a decision" among other things.
I can't say too much b/c I don't want her to think of reasons not to go or to feel too much pressure but obviously it DOES include couples who want to end their m and are "checking this off" their list so they can say they "tried everything". At least one woman UNpacked her suitcases after the workshop and decided to stay in the M a bit longer. There are follow up sessions you should attend b/c it is NOT just a weekend. It's a change in how you approach each other. Do the work. But don't think you'll leave with all your problems solved.
For me, it was about reconnecting w/ h in a way that makes me feel we are again on the same team. Therefore, the issues we face seem easier, and I trust him more. We had to overcome the basic forgiveness and releasing hurdle so we can be "in the now".
For us, our reaction to Retrovaille was stronger than many but no one failed to benefit. Were all the M's saved? Don't know. I read that 2 years later over 80% are still together. But you will have to do the work. And don't worry that she's shy. Believe me, some people said nothing "public" the whole time. Doesn't matter. Just go, and listen, and trust the process and do NOT worry about whether she's getting it. My h had his break through an hour before the end... (( j- ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
