LFA, I'm not going to offer advice since you have Laurie....who could be better? Listen to her.
But I did want to let you know I got the EXACT same email from my H in January and similiar emails in April.
Now he and I are dating. Have been since about May.
In January and April he saw his lawyer. In April he said he got the paper drawn up. I refused to sign on the grounds that we have a child and never sought professional help and frankly, I don't think running from problems solves them and that's what a divorce for him and me would have been. He was PISSED everytime I answered this way. But I stood my ground. Counseling first, then we'll talk about divorce if that doesn't work. "Well it won't! I want out! I want a D!" I would say "I understand. You've explained this to me before and again, I would like counseling so I can be as sure as you." Infuriated him. I told him "This conversation is old, you always get so upset, so maybe you should stop bringing it up?" Eventually, he did.
Hang in there. If you don't want this, don't agree to it. I told H, I'm not trying to be difficult I'm not trying to make your life harder....but this is not what I want so I can't help you with it.
