Is the goal hooking him in or moving on with my life? Cuz I want to follow your advice but then I need MAJOR support in dealing with the potential drama...
MOVING ON WITH YOUR LIFE...
Hooking him in may be a side bonus..
They don't come back until you let go. Let go...
Time for you to start setting the "rules"....
I told you the other day.. He is a drama "queen".. because you have allowed him to be...
Time to start showing him.. NO MORE.
You seem like a very intelligent woman. My take is that you are as addicted to the drama as he is. Drama sometimes keeps us from facing reality or the ho hum of everyday life or from boredom... It seems like you want to be the better arguer or find some great verbal comment that will suddenly wake him up..
Go read Redsoxfan's new thread.... It is the script that I keep pointing out to you and others...
Check out when he "suddenly" decided he couldn't live without his wife. Textbook of what I keep saying...
Your choice... It isn't about anyting but YOU MOVING ON. If he comes back because he senses that you have moved on,then that is a bonus and gives you yet another choice. It will give you negotiating power for him to make necessary changes. If not, it doesn't matter because you have moved on. It is a decision to move on just as it is a decision to love someone.
