Yowza. Good stuff though from you...good you understand your roll in how you got here and your roll now.
I say fight man. Fight hard for this woman and for your family. You just have to be very very careful to not "fight dirty" or for her to see it that way....meaning, now that the door is opened and the kids have met this dude, you can't use them as pawns.
I think you've done a pretty good job but maybe further explain, I am the father of these children. They won't need to stay over night with him, ever.
How many kids does he have and what age?
Basically, the way I see it, while you two are married legally she's not feeling that way. So she wants to date him. Ok, make her want to date you too.
But I think you have to be very careful walking this line of getting her heart back and not pursuing too hard.
