WAW is deep in a feel-sorry-for-herself funk. Because Signore dumped her, presumably. She's sending me these pick-pick-pick emails, in full-bore rewriting mode. Apparently the session -- the only one so far -- with Fabulous MC#2 which she said originally was "to better co-parent" was now to "explore relationships with each other for our own sakes."
Whatever the h*ll THAT means.
And she's angry that I'm "suspicious" and "cagey" and "obviously not committed" to Fab MC#2.
Ummmmmm, wha'? We've only been the one time. That was nearly a month ago. I asked 4 times if you were going to schedule another session. You never said you were going to make one. Ehhhhh, so that makes me cagey...how, exactly?
So this is the Gucci Paradigm at work in a nutshell. 8 months into The Process, having DB'd like a mo-fo, having watched WAW run off to Upstate City for tete-a-tetes with Signore Schmuckatelli, having been spit on, having been called every name in the book, having been told I was a "nice guy, but just not her guy," having Walked My Path and Rolled My Way.....and nothing -- I fly off on the Great European Getaway and BANG! WAW's jealous.
Now if I were a more @Coachly sort, I'd say that was awesome. Here, kitty-kitty.
But what's really going on? She's jealous...why? Because Signore has no more use for her now that he got what he wanted. So WAW turns to the familiar -- well, SP'll always be into me.
Meh. Maybe not so much. I don't trust it, I don't trust her, I don't believe she's changed an iota. And as Schnarch writes, you don't have to believe anything until you experience it -- and I haven't experienced it. Let another Signore come into her life, and a dollar will get you a donut that she'll be right back in the deepest part of The Fog.
The dynamic has changed in your relationship, before you were trying to impress her and prove to her that you were worth it. Now she has to rebuild the trust if she wants to be in your life because you respect yourself enough to make sure that she isn't just coming back to you because you are the backup option since her "brand new life" plans are crapping out. You can't make it easy for her either, otherwise it's like you said, another "signore" enters the picture and she repeats her behavior because you've allowed her to do this.
If she really wants you, she'll work at rebuilding the broken trust in your relationship and if she doesn't want you, it won't be worth her effort and she won't try and you will know that she isn't genuine.
