She said "You just don't understand, the R is not working for me. The M can't be salvaged. etc etc"
I agreed with her, and said "You seem to have made your decision, and there is no point in just waiting around any more."
The Waiting Place. Only one way out of Limboland.
Follow up on everything you said you were going to do. Now you are playing offense instead of defense. Don't even bring up the word effeminate again it even sounds effeminate. When she brings up change talk instead about how you are becoming stronger, wiser, and a better man. Then go about your business.
Quote:
"No, it's just weird - you are reading all these self help books, and looking inside and changing, and maybe it works for you, but it's not working for me"
Not doing it for her, make sure she sees that.
Don't use the word "dissolution" when talking about your marriage, it's too business like and doesn't do the sitch justice.
Watch what happens when you start moving out of limboland. Keep leading.
Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
