A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Dia]

Hi, Gima and X2,

Well, had our first mini-snit this morning. FIL was supposed to arrive last night. Every other time that I've been here, he gets in between 11 and midnight. We go to bed, leave the door unlocked and he just comes in when he arrives.

Middle of the night potty run - no FIL.

6:45 alarm - no FIL.

Passing H in the hallway, I told him that his father hadn't arrived. I was definitely concerned. FIL is mid-70s and it's a long drive alone at night.

H actually upbraided me! He didn't yell, but he was very clearly angry/annoyed.

"I don't worry about Dad when he's late. Sometimes he gets delayed. He gets here when he gets here. So stop it with your worried voice and looks of concern because you're making ME worry."

<Dia blinks in surprise>

<Dia puts on the DB mask real quick-like>

<smiling cheerfully> "You're right. You know his pattern far better than I do. I apologize and I shouldn't have worried."

Then I told him coffee was ready and hit the shower.

X2 - I'm really slammed at present. I'd love to offer you some support beyond you just reading my sitch but for the interim if there's something you'd like my opinion on, feel free to ask me or bring it up here. I've lurked in your thread and I do agree with the suggestions to go a bit dark for awhile. The anger and resentment she's feeling may not be entirely logical, but feelings often aren't. Validate if you can and let her process them on her own.