Thanks for posting. It always cheers me to come to the boards and see posts on my thread
I've had a lovely weekend. Friday night I treated myself to a new pair of shoes (my first love ), a walk in back rub which did wonders for my back, and then a gentle swim. It was lovely. Then on Saturday it was my first walk with the new group. It was so much fun, I *really* enjoyed it. We walked 9 miles in total with a pub lunch stop in the middle. It was great to chat to new people and find out about them and I slotted right in. I can't wait to do more. I am doing another one tomorrow night. It is so great that it is free! They also do social things in the evenings like go to the Proms and also have weekends away really regularly.
On Sunday my friend came over and we lazed about in the park all afternoon. We were laughing all afternoon, mainly because my back had gone really stiff and I was walking in a very comical way. I don't know why I am so stubborn, I should really have rested but I didn't want to miss out as I had planned to go on Saturday
I have found a local dance studio near my house where you can do drop in sessions. I am going to start trying all different dances and see if there is one I like. It is very cheap, the prices range from £2 - £11.00. I'm going to go to Burlesque on Thursday - apparently I will walk away a more sexy and confident woman I'm also going to try Tap and Samba.
GAG you are right that London is the perfect backdrop for my GAL. Please do not worry about hijacking, there is not much going on in the world of h. Hijack away, or if you want, I can set you up a thread. Choose a forum and I'm happy to set it up for you.
Kara, thank you for posting. It is lovely to see you here. I'll take a look at your story.
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Sometimes you can do nothing more than pull back and concentrate on you when you feel yourself beginning to focus too much on the progress you are hoping to see
Your words rang so true when I read them. It is exactly what I was doing and was not good for the PMA, plus I was getting rejected and fobbed off which wasn't 'working'. I would say I am waiting and seeing but I guess that isn't strictly true as I am GALing and having fun.
Lisa - Vintage clothes, heaven! Make sure you tell me all about it!
H news - 0. It has been a week since he last contacted me. I guess one potential thing is that one of his friends has been in contact over FB. He is the only one I have really stayed in contact with, although I never ask about H as it is not fair on him. He has asked me to go and visit him for a weekend in November. I think I'll go, it'll be fun. Although I will set a no h discussion boundary.
I guess one thing I have been pondering lately from my own sitch and reading others. When they (WAS) say they want to be friends, what does that friendship look like to them?
Do we, as LBS's, have unreasonable expectations? In which case what should we reasonably expect?
The walking group sounds like heaven!!! Great exercise in a FAB city while you make new friends....what more could a girl ask?
Samba lessons???? WONDERFUL! I've always wanted to take salsa lessons. My former SIL does burlesque, for real, and it looks like she has a LOT of fun doing it. Do they have 'pole dancing' classes? Friends of mine have done that and 'strip' classes. They teach them in the gym here and they're great exercise and good teaching tools to learn to use your body more openly.
Have a wonderful time, keep us posted on your activities.
Oh yeah - vintage clothes? Cool! How vintage are we talking?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Ok, I've had a hell of a day. I left a *really* important work folder on the bus. It contained everything of vital importance to my charity. I have spent the afternoon trying to hunt it down but to no avail. What a pain... now I have to tell my chairman (stomach sinks to the floor).
But anyway, I came home to an email from H.
'hiya, don't suppose you're free on Saturday evening? I am on a training course in London all day but could meet afterwards so I can give you that router? Maybe we could get some dinner too...
H'
However, I can't go. I am visiting a friend on the South Coast and it has been planned for ages. But result eh. He intiated a meet up. Now I have to think about next steps. Part of me (ok, most of me) so wants to go but there is no way I can.
Any thoughts on a reply?
Maybe
'Hi H
That sounds great but I am in Bournemouth this weekend. Let me know when you are next up.
J P.S - I left a really important work folder on the bus yesterday. I tried to retrace my steps but no avail. Apart from calling Lost Property you don't know anyone else that I could contact? Cheers '
Note: H used to work for Transport up until a month ago.
You are FUN and FABULOUS! Your weekend sounded great!!!! And this is just the beginning.....dancing, fencing,.....more walking and pub crawling. Think about the strength and determination you showed by deciding to walk in spite of your back injury. Pat yourself on the back for all of us! You showed the same determination that you have shown in choosing to stand for your marriage. Well done!
Sorry about your "folder on the bus" dilemma! Given that H used to work for Transport, could this be the universe giving you an opportunity to let him help you (assuage his guilt?)?
I understand your feelings about wishing to have time with H. However, to me this seems like the perfect opportunity to "take H's temperature". I too like the tentative reply you have penned. This looks like a really good opportunity to see if you can begin to turn around the distancer-pursuer dynamic. H initiated a dinner invitation and offered to give you a router (that you don't really need --- this sounds like an excuse to make contact to me). It is very positive that H INITIATED a dinner invitation. What would OW think if she knew this? (I'm betting that she doesn't know this.) Like Ali's BF (read her post today), your H may be having a lot of guilt issues. This may be his way of trying to assuage his guilt. By not jumping at this opportunity for contact with H, you will be giving him space and allowing him to miss you. Just my 2 cents.....
Thank you for your offer to help me start a thread for myself. I will start working on my "backstory" and try to figure it out.....but I may take you up on your offer in a few days if I can't figure it out. Thanks!
Hope you get the folder back. Gives your H an opportunity to help you though, every cloud………I’m probably being too optimistic here.
As for friendship I think it means that we don’t rock the boat or make things awkward for them ie it has to be on their terms. We expect a two way thing which is what friendship is IMO, is that unrealistic? I don’t think so.
), a walk in back rub which did wonders for my back, and then a gentle swim. It was lovely. Then on Saturday it was my first walk with the new group. It was so much fun, I *really* enjoyed it. We walked 9 miles in total with a pub lunch stop in the middle. It was great to chat to new people and find out about them and I slotted right in. I can't wait to do more. I am doing another one tomorrow night. It is so great that it is free! They also do social things in the evenings like go to the Proms and also have weekends away really regularly.
I'm also going to try Tap and Samba.