ah, this is all very confusing, isn't it? I agree--I think it's wise to pull back significantly, wait and see. excellent that you've taken steps to protect yourself in a worst-case scenario.
one thought, and you can take it or leave it. if you've never been "alone" as an adult, and have been with H since you were 17, it might be a good idea to give yourself some solitude. delay seeking male romantic companionship and get to know yourself as you, not as xH's wife or your children's mother--just you. transitions are frightening and painful--believe me, I've been through enough of them to know that well--but consider being completely single for awhile until the grief subsides at least--for you. altho an online or long-distance relationship is something of a happy medium between nothing and full-on romance, it still allows you to be other-focused at a time when it might just be best to focus on yourself. but again, especially since I haven't exactly been taking that advice myself, feel free to take it or leave it.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
